Saturday, January 14, 2012

When you're stuck (part III).

Welcome to another Saturday at Saturday Sequins!

I'm happy to announce that I'm not as stuck as I was last week. I'm not all the way unstuck, though, so I'm going to do some more work -- and if you're in a similar situation, you're welcome to work right along with me.

What's Next?

When I ended the previous post, the last thing we did was divide the things that are contributing to our stuckness into two categories: things we can control and things we can't. I'd like to start with the Can Pile and do a little sifting.

This pile is less scary than the Can't Pile, but at the same time, it takes a lot more work. When we can control things, we're responsible for controlling them -- for helping ourselves. And it can be exhausting.

But! The way we're going to approach items in this pile will make it a little less intimidating.

The Index Card Exercise

Get some index cards. On each one, write down something that's making you stuck. For me, it's bad time management, getting distracted by the wrong projects, ignoring the projects I'm most excited about, and not taking care of my body.

On the other side of each card, I want you to list one little thing you can do to work on each issue. You can list two if you want, but no more than that -- when you're stuck, long lists are not your friend. Besides, little things add up quickly into big changes!

For me, it went like this: Time management ----> ration beading time. Distracted by wrong projects ----> get rid of worst ones. Ignoring the best projects ----> Brainstorm your next step on those. Not taking care of self ----> get into spinach smoothie habit again.

After the Index Cards

Now that you have your cards filled out, I want you to... take the day off. That's right! Because chances are, we all filled out the bad self care card, and the first step to regaining your energy is to slow down.

Curl up on the couch with your favorite stuffed animal. Watch movies. Take naps. Cook your favorite food (or better yet, get someone else to do it). Stretch your tense, achy muscles. When I did this, I was able to recover from the nasty cold that was causing me so much trouble.

And don't forget the hygiene portions of self care! It might seem silly, but taking some time to deep condition your hair or do a clay facial masque works wonders. That's because you're doing something kind for yourself, and your body will respond to that attention in a good way.

The Next Day

So maybe you're feeling better, but you're still in a fragile state. That's normal! Which is why, if you can, I'd like you to take the next day to work on the index card that has you the most excited. For me, it was getting around to some of the things I'd neglected. I worked on the jewelry projects I felt like working on, and I brainstormed a way to make another project I loved, but was stuck on, more exciting and easier to do.

And After That...

Keep working on those cards. If at some point you realize you're completely unstuck, congratulations! You're awesome, and I'm so proud of you.

And if you're like me, still a little stuck, that's OK. I'm proud of you for all the work you've done -- because anything that isn't moping or rocking back and forth in panic is good and necessary work!

Once you have a handle on the first step of each card, I want you to write down another one. For me, it will be to take short walks during the day to feel healthier, to ration my Internet time in addition to beading time, and to make one itty bitty, itsy bitsy step every day towards finishing some of my projects.

We'll see what happens after that! Thanks for reading, thanks for being awesome, super duper thanks with glitter on top to everyone who offered such helpful advice and input in previous posts, and of course... have a sequintastic day!


  1. Great post Sarah! Once again, full of great advice! I can't wait to see the great projects you come up with when you get unstuck!

    1. Thanks, Melissa!

      Honestly, I can't wait to see them, either! One of them is a huge, top secret long term project, but it'll definitely be worth the wait. :)

  2. Tease! LOL! Can't wait to see the top secret project.

    You know, your advice is just plain good, no matter what funk you're in.

    I'm a great fan of index cards, too. We go through gobs of them!


    1. Believe me, it's hard not to share it with everyone! :)

      Thanks, Tela! That's an awesome compliment, and a great way for me to start a lazy Sunday morning!

  3. I'm really loving your advice, I think it will really help, thanks!

    1. I'm really glad my advice was useful to you! Believe it or not, I actually have enough material for a part four, which I'll post sooner or later.

      Thanks for visiting!

  4. Super article, thank you for sharing.
    -Eva Maria

  5. Thanks!

    And you're very welcome, Eva Maria!

    Part IV is coming soon. :)


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